Is This Really The One

Whether or not your partner is right for you it’s one of the most important decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on these choices, so how can you be sure you have picked the right one? Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself is why you love or are with your partner? You would be surprised at the answers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends. Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physically attracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areas you should look at:

1.) Communication Level
When you talk to them, are they on the same level as you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you get bored because they answer everything else under the sun rather than the question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they take you on?

Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand you when you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything? This may not seem important now, but could you imagine living with someone for the next 50-70 years that can never answer a direct question, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication and just doesn’t get it when are trying to explain something to them?

2.) Common Interests
This is really a given. You have to have something in common with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise, you will have nothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically you may have great sex, but how far can that really take you? When two people have different interests, one person usually ends up sacrificing their desires for the other person or you end up living completely separate lives.

3.) Ambitions
Do you both want the same things in life or are they going to hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career you have always wanted even if it means working long hours plus going to school at night?

4.) Ethics Level
Do they have the same values as you? Would they feel totally OK doing something that you would have strong objections to or vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such as religion, prejudice, raising children etc.? If not, is this something that will become a problem in the future?

5.) Grooming and Cleanliness
Are they a slob and you are the type of person that likes to keeps the house immaculate? Do you take the same level of care of your appearance?

There is a lot of false information about relationships out there. One of the biggest lies is that opposites attract. That is really just a myth. Now a lot of the things I have listed above do come down to personal choice. If comes down to what you are and are not willing to accept. Just because you have fallen in love with someone does not mean that they are the right one for you. The number of people in physically abusive relationships should be testament enough to that. One thing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you want because you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel this might be the best you can get. You never know what you might have missed that was right around the corner. Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at it. By doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of “What if”.

Stop Making Excuses in 10 Steps

Are you the kind of guy who always finds excuses for his shortcomings? If so, it's time to find out why and start doing something about it.

The habit of constantly making excuses for oneself can have multiple impacts, ranging from laughingly being referred to as undependable to being considered overly defensive and paranoid. You may be strong, forthright and well-respected in all other aspects of your professional, personal and family life, but if you're always covering up your shortcomings with excuses, some kind of negative reputation is bound to develop.

The solution lies entirely within your own control. It's time to break the habit of making excuses.


Recognize your excuses
You know your excuses have become a problem if someone confronts you about it, even in a joking manner. Worse still, people may not seem to respect or trust you. Maybe you're known as someone who breaks promises places blame on others, or doesn't accept responsibility for actions or errors. You might be the guy who always procrastinates, takes on too much or can't say "no" and then can't get everything done.

In any case, your reputation is that of someone who can't be counted on. Your friends and colleagues view you as the last person they can ask for a favour and no one wants to be that guy.

When you make excuses all the time, you're perceived as a man who is overly defensive and not dependable. It's time to make a change.

"The one common denominator in every mess you find yourself in is you."  - Bob Wall


Your goals
In order to restore your reputation as a reliable guy, you're going to need to shed some of the hallmarks of the chronic excuse-maker. It's time to:

•         Regain respect and stop allowing people to take advantage of you.

•         Change people's perception of you from weak to assertive.

•         Increase your self-confidence and sense of pride.

No more excuses!
Time to stop being the excuse guy. Here are 10 steps to get you there.

1- Face the facts
As with most bad habits, the first step to dealing with excuse-making is to acknowledge that you have this problem. Don't procrastinate and hope it will resolve itself. Your friends and family have stopped accepting your explanations at face value -- so should you.

2- Get over yourself
Because you have never acknowledged your own responsibility in making excuses, maybe you have felt like people are out to get you. Well, it's time to leave the conspiracy theories to Oliver Stone. Try to stop being paranoid. There will always be people who disagree with you, criticize you unjustly or disrespect you. Don't waste a lot of time and energy creating explanations and excuses to prove them wrong. You'll just sound suspicious, distrustful and immature.

3- Clarify expectations
If you restrict yourself to tasks that you can actually accomplish, you won't be tempted to later account for your failings. Be upfront when asked to plan the office team-building activity. Ask what time commitment is required before you take it on. Don't feel forced to accept if you know that you'll end up laying the blame on others when you fall short.

4- Be honest

Making up excuses is as stressful as lying, because you have to remember exactly what you have told various people. Be honest and relieve yourself of the stress. Stop embellishing descriptions to cast your own self in a better light. Your defensive attitude makes your friends, family and co-workers uncomfortable.

5- Stop complaining
Constant hypercriticism of others doesn't make you look any better. Stop shirking responsibility and looking for the easy way out. If, in fact, the gym is overcrowded, expensive and has lousy parking, find an alternate one. Otherwise, admit you don't like working out, find another way to get fit and quit whining. Remind yourself each day of the negative implications of constantly finding excuses. Drive yourself to change.

6- Speak up, then shut up
Learn to say you're sorry without launching into a long-winded explanation. The reasons why your report was late don't matter. If you forgot your wedding anniversary, face the music and apologize without hiding behind fictitious reasons. Challenge yourself to eliminate extraneous excuses -- starting right now.

"Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn to exercise his will -- his personal responsibility in the realm of faith and morals."  - Albert Schweitzer


7- Accept criticism
Take ownership of your shortcomings and mistakes, but don't let habitual faultfinders undermine your confidence. You may be reinventing your attitude, but not everyone else is -- don't let others force you to revert to your old defensive ways. When you receive criticism, ask for specifics. In your annual performance review, discuss ways to improve for the future rather than trying to rewrite the past.

8- Develop a buddy system
Make a pact with a friend or colleague who has the same problem. Agree to point it out if you see him regressing to his old ways, and have him commit to doing the same.

9- Write yourself a contract
Jot down all your short- and long-term goals, along with set deadlines for reaching them. Date and sign the agreement, and have a witness (perhaps a good friend) sign it too. Seeing your goals in writing might have more of an impact on you, especially if you have a "buddy" checking up on you regularly.

10- Ask for collaboration
Invest your energy into finding solutions instead of creating justifications. If you're always late for your car pool, ask a fellow commuter for a wake-up call each morning. When your friends complain that you're always late for parties, laugh and ask them to invite you a half-hour earlier. If you need to, you can even seek help from a professional motivator or attend a seminar.

There's no excuse
Your health and well-being are your own responsibility. You have choices in life, and you're entitled to choose to find excuses for yourself, to blame other people and to sound paranoid. But you'll be happier and healthier if you opt for honesty, integrity and confidence.

How you react to external events is one of the things that will form people's impressions. It's never too late to improve your image. Show your willingness to change by eliminating this bad habit and becoming more dependable. Start creating solutions instead of excuses. It takes time and effort to change a habit, but it will be worth it.

25 Awesome Tips For A Beautiful Life


1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. & while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.


2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. When you wake up in the morning, pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.

4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli, and almonds.

6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.

9. Life is not fair, but it’s still good.

10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!

11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, would this matter?’

17. Help the needy. Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’ not a ‘Taker’

18. What other people think of you is none of your business.

19. Time heals everything.

20. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

22. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

23. Each night before you go to bed, pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!

24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

25. Share this to everyone to help them lead a happier life.

Simple Signs That A Guy Likes You

The guy might act kind of strange and fidget around you, but nobody else does. It probably means he likes you, but does not know how to say it! I think the most obvious signs a guy likes you is when he says the dumbest things just to keep talking. Guys are doing these things when they like a girl, but they don’t want to admit that they do because they believe that they’ll be laugh at. Also, if a guy tries to hold your hand or starts talking dirty as a joke it’s totally obvious.

A.) One of the most obvious signs that a guy likes you is that he will just always stare at you even if they don't know you. They will just stare at you from a distance hoping that you will notice them. Most likely a guy will just stare at you a lot of the times and when you look at his way he just stops looking at you until you look away.

He will always ask only you for stuff they really don't need. Just so that they can get your attention or he just wants a small talk or even make you laugh!

I think that when a guy likes you, you will notice them that they’re always staring at you. They keep on looking at you until they notice you’re looking at their direction, so they know that somehow you’re interested. At least, I also think when a guy calls you at random times or calls you a few times in a day just to say “HI”, means that he is interested. It also makes you feel good and I think it’s the sweetest thing.

B.) When a guy likes to play around a lot and glance his eyes at you a lot even when you’re looking. He makes up nicknames and picks on you for fun because he knows it will be a funny joke and not serious to make you mad. When you’re angry he will feel sad for you and tell you he's sorry if he bothers you. They also will take up for you.

HE WILL RESPECT YOU AND WANT TO KEEP IT REAL. HE'LL ALSO TELL YOU THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF, BUT NEVER SAY IT IN A MORE DISRESPECTFUL MANNER.

Well, guys should stop being stereotypes since not everyone is going to make dirty jokes or try to hold your hand. I think as a girl the biggest thing you should look for in a guy is when he knows how to show some respect and that he is nice to you. Other than that, what else would you want from a guy in the first place?

C.) I think if a guy likes you he'll be touchy-feely or he would like to keep "accidentally" bumping into you just to touch you. They would like to play stupid when he's around you looking like a fool, but what he really wants is to impress you. Guys would also act hard to be mature when they’re around a girl they like or being over protective of you. You'll know that a guy likes you if he starts following you wherever you go and always making an eye contact.

He'll find any way possible to glance at you three times a day or stare at you a lot. If you ever catch him in the act he might look into your eyes so deep (if he's not shy) and other times he'll turn away until you stop looking at him, but if you try to look at the corner of your eyes you will find him taking another glance at you again. He looks at you a lot of times and then turns away quickly or when he looks down then that is a good sign. His pupils dilate when he talks to you and he seems to be hanging on to every word he says.

D.) You will know that a guy likes you when he loves to play with your hair and really annoys you that much. He'll use any sort of excuse just to touch you. Like if you're wearing a necklace, he'll move closer and try to grab it and say, "Look at the necklace." Or in any way he'll play with a tie on your shirt or a ring. He’ll do anything possible just to get close to you (but this could also mean in a different kind of way, so basically this is not always true because there are married men with kids who does the same thing and would randomly come up to you and like to touch your shoulder and etc. They may seem to be doing it a friendly way of saying “HI” and not more on “I want to be more than friends with you” kind of thing and you might misinterpret in a way that maybe it’s just the kind of person he is.

E.) A guy likes you if he would play fights with you. When he's talking to you he'll touch your arm or put his hand on your shoulder. He always makes eye contact with you even when you're not talking he'll just look at you and smile and he just can't stop smiling. He might also say stupid things to keep the conversation going and would try to tease you playfully. For instance, if you're going to the movies he'll choose a scary movie over a comedy or anything else because scary movies are an excuse to cuddle especially when girls are scared.

One sure fire that you can tell if a guy likes you or not is if you are in a bad mood he will try anything to make you smile. Also, he will try and get close to you even more even when you are crowds away. Or at least he will try and catch your eye.

F.) This is also interesting because if a guy likes you, he'll act nervous around you sometimes or always try to be around you. He might act slightly jealous when you're talking to someone or talking about another guy and then he'll want to know ALL about him, so he can try and work out if he's got a competition. One thing is for sure about the whole teasing and play fighting thing, and if he accidentally hurts you or annoys you then he'll be really sorry and use it as an excuse to get a hug from you.

Overall, he'll be nice to you and make you feel good at all times. I think one of the ways that guys do show us they like us is when they try to be mean to us. Like for some cases that they just want to make some arguments for no reason at all. They tend to act like little kids and be mean. Although, that is frustrating but there are some guys who just can’t admit the fact that they like the girl. They will also pretend to have a fight with you by pushing you or teasing you. If the guy makes you upset, he will try his best to comfort you and try to get a hug out of it (again, physical contact).

G.) I think a guy likes you if he comes up to you and even though he doesn't sit close to you every day. When you’re in a group his attention is almost always on you (For example: He says “HI” to you first then to everyone else or he doesn't even say anything at all. Or if he realizes that he's been focusing all his attention on you and then he would quickly say something to someone else just to cover it up).

If a guy really likes you he will gaze at you until you look his way, and then he'll either quickly turn away or smile at you (it depends on whether he's shy or not). Also, he'll always be looking for excuses to get closer to you or be where you are. It'll be pretty obvious. Trust me, when he does these things you'll know that he likes you.

We should always remember that NOT EVERY GUY IS THE SAME BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT WAYS OF SHOWING THEIR FEELINGS. One might fetch things or carry things for you, sit with you at lunch, or laugh at your jokes. My advice is DO NOT make a PRO-CON list out of it, if you know a guy likes you or not. I know, this would sound stereotypical, but NEVER EVER ASK A GUY OUT for a date!!! You could give him some sure fire gestures to let him know you like him, but DON’T ASK HIM OUT because that gives him way too much of an EGO BOOST. Letting him know what you feel and for him to take it from there is already enough. There is one thing that you should know that a worst thing any girl would do to a guy is to change the way he is. That goes the same way to guys when they try to change for some dumb girl.

H.) If a guy likes you, he will show interests with your interests. He will not compliment you to your face as much as he does to your friends. He will always want you to make the first move – you could be a bit bold or daring and put yourself out there. You could show him your true worth, by showing a bit of self confidence. In turn, he will become confident enough to ask you out.

Well, if you tell a guy you like him and he says he just likes you as a friend then that could mean two things: 1.) He could just be shy or surprised and not want to admit it because he's embarrassed. One way to tell is that he stills sometimes hangs around you. He may joke around and say positive and negative things about himself. That means he just wants to impress you or get your attention. 2.) He could NOT really like you. If you really think so then most likely you’ll know. He wouldn’t pay much attention to you. He may say “HI” a few times and he may also be friendly to you, but not being over friendly.

All guys are different and you never know what they are thinking. Guys are strange and sometimes they could be absurd. Just but follow your heart and you may find Mr. Right. If he likes you then he gives you special attention. When you talk, he just gazes into your eyes, takes special interest in you and the little things that matters to you. He would also give you the utmost respect and looks at you after everything he says to see how you react, but when you look at him, he looks away smiling. He'll try to show off his physical strength by lifting something or someone heavy and then looks at you to see if he impressed you. Also, he'll try to defend you when someone makes fun of you.

Listen to you your instinct and you'll know if he likes you. A guy does NOT like you if he is mean to you. I don't mean like making jokes about your height or something like that. Instead, he is being rude and disrespectful towards you. If you can think of three reasons not to do something, don't do it. It works the same with guys: Make a list of all the things you like and dislike about him.