How To Be A Better Couple

I have here a list of ten steps that you might want to read and understand the things that I am trying convey for you to enjoy each others’ company better.

1. Be realistic about each other.
Don’t try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let’s face it, guys – there’s only one Pamela Anderson in the world, and even if she had her implants removed. Give your girl a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies – Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you’re going to have to do it with what your guy likes. Chill out! Love each for what you are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your favorite pastime or mode of resolving issues, but you know what? This works with the girls. Don’t make assumptions about each other’s feelings. Learn to express yourself better, so that your partner understands what you’re angry about, what hurts her feelings, or even happy about. When you stop talking to each other from the heart, it’s the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve each other in some shared activities. Something both of you enjoys or is interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand at the park. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts you to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your girl asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for “that sort of activities” instead. If you’re spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it’s la warning sign that you’re drifting apart.

4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the “The Rock” print, you should not kick up much of a fussed if he asks you to keep your room tidy. There’s got to be a little giving and taking in relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5. Show your love.
Buy her flowers, candies, or perfume every now and then, even if you have been together for 5 years. It’s wonderful to continue showing someone that you care for him or her. Cook him a special meal or paint him a Valentine’s Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can’t wear (like for decoration purposes), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him, so he knows you can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for a while.

6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is you love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks if it’s funny or not. And is he has an inferiority complex about his height, stopped ogling at tall guys and made him feel worse about himself. Love is all about respecting each other’s feelings and being sensitive to one another at all times.

7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Girls, don’t bring up the happy things about you and your ex to your guy. It would just make him jealous and unhappy. And guys, don’t talk about the happy times that you had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your girl feel unhappy and she might think that you’re saying all this because you are going to get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on your jealousy.
All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you’re going to go through your partner’s mail and cupboard, or eavesdropping on conversations which you know that something is wrong – with you! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads through the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner, love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep your commitment to each other.
If your partner is standing you up all the time and cancelling dates or breaking promises, you guys need to talk! If you’re in a relationship, make your partner as your priority and don’t disappoint them if you can help it. It’s really terrible when someone promises to take you to dinner and then calls you to cancel it. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. If your partner starts to feel that he or she is not important enough to you, well, I am telling you this – you might just going to lose her or him.

10. Always be honest.

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly. When we say “always be honest” - what we mean is by expressing your feelings clearly towards your partner, not being bitingly cruel. When you’re hurt, say it, and when you’re angry, tell him or her without getting hysterical. If you can’t be honest with your partner, who can you be honest with? Love is all about honesty. A relationship where honesty does not exist would probably not worth it and eventually it will be the end of your love story.

I Will Wait For You

I can’t explain my feelings for you
It’s just too much to say,
But all I do is think of you day after day.

You don’t understand how much I wish
You could just be mine,
And maybe it will happen
It might just take some time.

I don’t know how or why
My feelings are so strong
But I do know that
In my arms is where you belong.

I know that I have known you
For just a little while
But ever since I met you
I can only think of your smile.

I wish you would look me in my eyes
And say you want me too
But until then, I just want you to know
I will wait for you.

The Flirting Game

It was a warm, sunny day fit for a stroll in the park. Among the crowd moving to and fro you caught someone’s eye. With a slight hesitation you smiled at him and by some miracle he smiled back. You were certain you haven’t met him before, but he seems nice and friendly. Should you:

a.) Approach him and introduce yourself?
b.) Wait for him to make the first move?
c.) Watch him walk away, still a stranger to you.

It is a dilemma indeed, but with enough courage and confidence you just might win a friend or even more than that. To make the long story short, go ahead… FLIRT!

Flirting is toying with the idea of making new acquaintances and taking chances for it, but it’s not as easy as it sounds though. It takes more than just batting your eyelashes at someone to perfect the art of flirting. It’s in fact an attitude that can either be natural or cultivated with practice.

Some people are blessed to be natural-born flirts, but anyone can be flirtatious with practice and tons of self-confidence. In the flirting arena, as compared to a dating game - it has the one flirting and the person to be flirted with.

Sending the right signals
Flirting begins by transmitting the right signals that you are flirting or you want to flirted on. A smile and eye contact both constitutes a signal. Once this is established then make yourself approachable by separating yourself from a bunch of friends, if you have company. The person who is flirting would feel more comfortable in approaching you without having to deal with any of your companions whom he’s not particularly interested at the moment.

Don’t forget to drop the bombshell on everyone and just make the first move! Most men would love to be approached by a woman because it eliminates the possibility of being rejected and shows just how confident she is just by doing so. Besides, in this day and age where double standard is being levelled out, women should also do their share of asking. It will give women an opportunity to experience what men have to go through when making the first move. Perhaps, after such a daring move, women have second thoughts in rejecting a guy’s attention.

Motivate and be motivated
You can motivate flirting by using clever and unusual props. Props would be anything you wear or bring that is eye-catching and would make a very good subject for a light conversation. For example: a shirt with funny or kinky prints, or a cute and funny dog, and interesting book or even your chubby, inquisitive little brother.

Starting a conversation would be easy if you have something in common to talk about. It is up to the one flirting to recognize such props and start from there.

Be positive, be interesting, be you
Show your enthusiasm when flirting. Make the person you’re flirting with feel good about her own self by letting her know you are very much interested in her and would very much like to have her as a friend. Don’t do a litany of your autobiography, instead, try and find out more about her. Most people would be flattered when you show interest in them. And when the person you’re flirting with returns the favor by inquiring about you – be honest and genuine. Don’t pretend you’re someone else. One way or another she will find out exactly who you are and all your efforts in gaining a friend would go drowned the drain.

Marriage Proposal Ideas

Is getting married on your mind right now? To start the party, we have gathered a numbered of proposal ideas you can customize the floor you choose. Remember, that your sweetie will be telling the story of how you proposed to friends and strangers for of his or her life. Check out these different ideas on how you will ask your girl's hand in marriage.

Proposal Ideas Part 1 - Go Public
1. For some, a public display of attention is the ultimate gesture. Most movie theaters will let you buy a slide that plays onscreen before the feature. You can design your own and watch as the entire theater strains to see the lucky person’s astonished expression.

2. Convince the local theater to spell out your proposal on their marquee. Phrase it like a film title: “The Love of a Lifetime – starring (insert names here)”

3. Take the stage! Get in touch with the stage manager of an appropriately themed production and propose after the cast’s curtain call (the stage manager will prep everyone and get you in position). I Love You. You’re Perfect – Will you spend a lifetime with me? Marry Me!

4. Have your proposal painted on a billboard en route to her office. Park beneath it or await their arrival at work, armed with champagne ready for toasting.

5. Take out a full-page ad in a newspaper you know your honey reads daily. Be nearby while they read, or else you’ll miss the look on her face!

6. Gather all your friends for a big softball game. Give the outfielders signs that spell your sweetie’s name and “Will you marry me?” When she comes up to bat, signal them to display the signs. Tell your soon-to-be-fiancĂ© that if he hits one out of the park, a different kind of diamond awaits them.

7. Make a list of ten reasons you’d like to marry your beloved. Read them to her in front of a crowd, have a singing telegram deliver them or send them written on note cards one by one over the course of a day and with the last card arriving via personal messenger (and that is you).

8. We had to add this one: Create a Web page declaring your love and intentions. Leave your sweetie a clue with the Web address written on it – don’t say a word. After the proposal has been officially accepted (which of course it will be), and she can proudly send the page to friends and family.

Proposal Ideas Part 2 – Perfectly Private, Please!
1. Draw a bath for the two of you and place a floating candle or rubber ducky in the middle with a ring tied around its neck. Make a path of roses leading to the tub.

2. Speaking of paths, turn off all the light in your apartment and make a trail of candles that leads to a circle of votive position around a ring.
3. Give your girlfriend a foot massage and place the ring on her little toe.

4. Send your sweetie on a treasure hunt. Start with a clue at home. Then send her on a tour of your favorite spots – all over town, or just around the house. When she gets to the last hint, the treasure should be you offering up a ring or other sentimental token. They won’t need another clue to figure out what you mean.

5. Sometimes the key is not how you pop the question, but where. Find a special place, maybe the bar where you first kissed or the Chevy backseat, where you first uh – well, you know. Or go to a place that means something to both of you. Once you’re in position, just kneel and ask. Your honey will always remember that you remembered.

6. Tie a red velvet ribbon from one spot in your home to another. Attach little notes recalling perfect moments in your relationship along the way. You wait at the last stop, ring in hand.

7. You don’t need to propose with a diamond ring. Buy any piece of jewelry or a watch and inscribe it with, “Marry me.”

Proposal Ideas Part 3 - Surprise!!!
1. Want to really surprise your sweetheart? Cut out the bottom of a big box, wrap it with pretty paper and ribbon, and attach a card that says, “What’s inside the box is a gift to last a lifetime.” DELIVER it yourself to her office or front door.

2. A surprise trip is sure to set the mood. Blindfolds and intricate secret plans (you’ll have to pack her bags) are a much to increase the thrill factor. Once you have reached your destination, pop the question.

3. Is your sweetie a deep sleeper? Slip the ring on her finger while they’re dozing and wake them with champagne and strawberries. The gesture will just seem romantic – until they discover a new piece of jewelry adorns them.

Proposal Ideas Part 4 - The way to a loved one’s heart is through the stomach
1. Food is tempting addition to any successful proposal. Spell out, “Will you marry me?” in M&Ms, Jellybeans, or Hershey’s Kisses on the kitchen table, bed, or coffee table. Send her to read it. When she says “YES”, you can toast your future with a mutual sugar rush.

2. Freeze the ring in a homemade Popsicle, and give your sweet two treats in one!

3. Surprise your honey with an intricate gift basket. Pile in yummy delicacies – the best chocolate, caviar, coffee – but don’t limit yourself to food. You could also include silk slippers, a book or CD. Hide the ring among all these wonderful presents (in its box, so it does not get lost in the goodies)

4. If you’re dining in a fancy restaurant, ask the wait staff to write, “Will you marry me?” in chocolate sauce around the rim of her dessert plate.

5. Serve dinner of aphrodisiacs at home and place the ring inside an oyster shell.

6. Make your planned breakfast in bed. Propose to her while they feel ultra-cozy and pampered.

Proposal Ideas Part 5 – Let me see the kid in you
1. Draw a hopscotch board on the sidewalk and invite your honey out for a game. Once she has to give way to a little childhood play, replace the pebble you’re using with the real rock – the engagement ring.

2. Spell your proposal out in glow-in-the-dark stickers on your ceiling. Get into bed, turn the lights off, and wait for the inevitable gasp.

3. Write “Will You Marry Me?” on the underside of a kite and take flight on a warm and breezy afternoon.

4. Spell out your proposal with refrigerator magnets.

5. Scratch your proposal into the frost on her cat’s windshield.

6. If it’s Easter season, paint one word each from the phrase, “Will you marry me?” on four eggs and hide them with the rest, so she has to find them all to make a complete sentence. Definitely make “marry” the hardest egg to find. You can throw in other eggs with funny verbs painted on them to throw your egghead off – like kick, tickle, and love.

Proposal Ideas Part 6 – Hot ideas under the sun
1. Go to the beach with your sweetie. Causally build a sandcastle (at a safe distance from the ocean), and place the ring on the highest tower. Invite her to admire your handiwork, then pop the question.

2. Go for a sunset sail and propose while at the sea.

3. If you’re vacationing in a warm place (or you live in a warm place, lucky dogs), tie the ring onto her hot new string bikini – or in the lacing of your surf shorts and announce that you want to take the plunge.

4. While your beloved is taking a nap on the beach, sneak away and spell out your intention in seashells. Then go for an afternoon stroll and let the shells do all the work.

5. Take you darling to the local Fourth of July fireworks show, and have someone announce your proposal before your whole town.
6. Gather your families together for a summer barbecue and make your proposal a family affair.

7. Plan a scavenger hunt through a local park. Pack a picnic, and when you get to the park, send her along to find the first clue. Once they’re out of sight, make yourself the last clue in a romantic spot with champagne and ice and ring in hand.

8. Invite Miss Right to a private pool party and send the ring floating toward them on a raft. (Note: This does not work in a Jacuzzi)

9. Here is a truly classy approach: Write your proposal in sunscreen on your tummy, so that your tan will transfer the words. She will be so touched you have taken such an, um, interesting approach, she will accept your proposal immediately.

Proposal Ideas Part 7 – Flying high
1. Hire a skywriter to spell your proposal on high.

2. Tongue-tied? Hire a plane to fly a banner with your “Marry me (insert name here)” message written on it. Take your honey to a wide-open space – a beach, park, or a stadium – and simply point to it.

3. Hire a plane to draw huge hearts and your initials in the sky. When your sweetie notices what the pilot is doing, tell her that your love was heaven sent.

Proposal Ideas Part 8 – Flower power
1. Flowers always charm people – what else exists solely to look beautiful? (Except your fiancĂ©, of course), string the ring on a ribbon and use it to tie a bouquet of wonderful flowers (daffodils, tulips, lilies, or whatever reminds you of her) together.

2. Go for symbolic power. Instead of the standard, even though lovely bouquet of roses, present her with a potted orchid. Put the ring beside the stem (in its box, so it does not get lost in the Spanish moss). The orchid will last a long time, will always be grand, and will bloom from time and time again (just like your love).

3. Plant a colorful window box of forget-me-not for her. In the biggest space will phrase, “Will you marry me?” on four garden markers.

4. Sneak into her home or office armed with rose petals. In the biggest letters space will allow, spell out, “Will You Marry Me?”

Proposal Ideas Part 9 – Aww, so sweet!!!
1. If it’s cold and snowy, build a snowman and set the ring box in his stick arms.

2. Propose in different language, or lots of different languages – starting from French, the language of love.

3. Buy a baby animal that she always wanted (bunny, kitten, puppy) and loosely tied the ring around its neck. Make a commitment to the pet and each other. Or, substitute a stuffed animal – still fuzzy, but less maintenance.

4. Play Hangman and have the phrase be “Marry Me.”

Well, that’s it. Now, you have a lot of options or ideas to choose from on how you will propose a marriage to the love of your life. Read and choose which one is best for you sweetie that would really surprise her or something she would not expect that you’ll be doing it to her. Good luck!

Things A Perfect Guy Would Do To His Girl

1. Know how to make you smile when you are down.
2. Try to secretly smell your hair or perfume.
3. Stick up for you, but still respect your independence.
4. Be wrapped up in everything else, but still have time for you.
5. Fit his arms firmly around you and make you feel secure.
6. Hint that he wants to kiss you.
7. Hold your hand and make you feel loved.
8. Tell you that you're beautiful, even on a bad hair day.
9. Never run out of new things to do and places to go.
10. Never run out of good jokes.
11. He will be funny, but know when to be serious.
12. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.
13. Be patient when you take forever to get ready.
14. Try to hide that one stuffed animal when you come over.
15. Act like Mr. Big
16. Apologize for acting like Mr. Big
17. Ask you for a pen when you know he has one.
18. Blast the music when picks up the phone.
19. Turn it off when he notices that you are on the phone.
20. Look at you and make you get butterflies in your stomach.
21. Shower you with meaningful gifts.
22. Bring you flowers even if he picks them on his way to your house.
23. Hug you on a bad day and make clouds seem to lift.
24. Love you unconditionally.
25. Hold your hand during the trying times.
26. Don't talk about you behind your back.
27. Encourage you to keep trying to reach your goals.
28. Tell you what you need to hear not necessarily what you want to hear.
29. Laugh with you, not at you.
30. Understand you pain.
31. Give you a part of who they are.
32. Ask for nothing in return.
33. Help you see the light.
34. Don't walk pout when trouble walks in.
35. Stick it out till the end.

When To Let Go

Imagine this, in your hand is a very precious creation, so fragile, so valuable that if you keep on holding, it would either stay or fall apart. But you loved this creature so much that letting it go would be like letting go of your life as well. So much that sometimes you wished it would be there forever. So much that you tend to be selfish at times, so as you could make it stay for as long as you like. Don't we all wish of something "so good" could be there forever? Don'r we all hope that happiness is there to stay?

There comes a time in our lives when we came to have a chance on someone "so nice and almost perfect" and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person (sometimes without even realizing it). This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumed our thoughts and actions to the extent that we tagged it as one of those "too good to be true" thing.

The sad part there is when we begin to realize that, this particular person feels totally nothing but friendship. A "thing" that would be forever a "thing" nothing more, nothing less. Simply, it was just a "thing". You're just a friend and that's the truth! Then in our desperate attempt to get closer (or at least, be noticed), our efforts are still hopeless and we end up sorry for ourselves.

Letting go of someone doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his or her own happiness without expecting him or her to come back. Letting go is just setting the other person free (in the real sense of it), but it is also setting yourself free from all grudges, hatred, and feeling of discontent that was long kept inside your heart. You have to let go because the bitterness often puts away the strengths and weakens the littlest hope which makes our lives more miserable than ever. Worst, presenting oneself as the "most affected one" sets the nastiest impression of all time - what a loser!

The trick there is to always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. If you lose love that doesn't mean that you failed in love, right? Just regard it as another mismatch of heaven. Well, you can cry of course, or whine or shout (even growl) if you have to, but make sure that after those outbursts, you have washed away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you (easier said than done, I know).

We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past, but the real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today. You really don't have to forget someone you love (because it's hard). What we need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for what we have become. I think it would be better that we give off that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Hmm, "who could it be?" is the next interesting question to ponder. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray hard that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

12 Smart Strategies

Why do some couples seems so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are a lot easier or more perfect than yours, but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life.

1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love, so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, and give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.

4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things whether it could be big or small. Be willing to compromise.

5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment - not at work, thinking about the new color you want to paint your kitchen, or what time should you take the dog to the vet. 

6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each other. It does matter.

7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas, those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain because the next one will be your turn.

8. Do not put any blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together - sit close, hold hands, and then touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rend a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.

9. Plan for sex. Spontaneity is great, but smart couples know that good sex doesn't just happen. Like everything else, it takes time and planning.

10. Find some facts - don't read minds. You may think you know it, but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misunderstandings and misinterpretations to make sure they don't throw you both off the course.

11. Fight fair - and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and try to limit your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

12. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (maximum of one day) - and when you're checking back in.

Sex 101: An Introduction to Sex

Certain facts that are uncensored which provides information that is good for you. Did you know that you tell from the skin whether a person is sexually active or not? Learn all of these things here:

1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.

2. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.

3. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner.

4. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers.

5. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.

6. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy.

7. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. It is 10 times more effective than Valium.

8. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.

9. Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.

10. Lots of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.