Is This Really The One

Whether or not your partner is right for you it’s one of the most important decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on these choices, so how can you be sure you have picked the right one? Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself is why you love or are with your partner? You would be surprised at the answers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends. Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physically attracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areas you should look at:

1.) Communication Level

When you talk to them, are they on the same level as you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you get bored because they answer everything else under the sun rather than the question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they take you on?

Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand you when you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything? This may not seem important now, but could you imagine living with someone for the next 50-70 years that can never answer a direct question, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication and just doesn’t get it when are trying to explain something to them?

2.) Common Interests

This is really a given. You have to have something in common with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise, you will have nothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically you may have great sex, but how far can that really take you? When two people have different interests, one person usually ends up sacrificing their desires for the other person or you end up living completely separate lives.

3.) Ambitions

Do you both want the same things in life or are they going to hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career you have always wanted even if it means working long hours plus going to school at night?

4.) Ethics Level

Do they have the same values as you? Would they feel totally OK doing something that you would have strong objections to or vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such as religion, prejudice, raising children etc.? If not, is this something that will become a problem in the future?

5.) Grooming and Cleanliness

Are they a slob and you are the type of person that likes to keeps the house immaculate? Do you take the same level of care of your appearance?

There is a lot of false information about relationships out there. One of the biggest lies is that opposites attract. That is really just a myth. Now a lot of the things I have listed above do come down to personal choice. If comes down to what you are and are not willing to accept. Just because you have fallen in love with someone does not mean that they are the right one for you. The number of people in physically abusive relationships should be testament enough to that. One thing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you want because you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel this might be the best you can get. You never know what you might have missed that was right around the corner. Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at it. By doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of “What if”.

Stop Making Excuses in 10 Steps

Are you the kind of guy who always finds excuses for his shortcomings? If so, it's time to find out why and start doing something about it.

The habit of constantly making excuses for oneself can have multiple impacts, ranging from laughingly being referred to as undependable to being considered overly defensive and paranoid. You may be strong, forthright and well-respected in all other aspects of your professional, personal and family life, but if you're always covering up your shortcomings with excuses, some kind of negative reputation is bound to develop.

The solution lies entirely within your own control. It's time to break the habit of making excuses.

Recognize your excuses

You know your excuses have become a problem if someone confronts you about it, even in a joking manner. Worse still, people may not seem to respect or trust you. Maybe you're known as someone who breaks promises places blame on others, or doesn't accept responsibility for actions or errors. You might be the guy who always procrastinates, takes on too much or can't say "no" and then can't get everything done.

In any case, your reputation is that of someone who can't be counted on. Your friends and colleagues view you as the last person they can ask for a favour and no one wants to be that guy.

When you make excuses all the time, you're perceived as a man who is overly defensive and not dependable. It's time to make a change.

"The one common denominator in every mess you find yourself in is you."  - Bob Wall

Your goals

In order to restore your reputation as a reliable guy, you're going to need to shed some of the hallmarks of the chronic excuse-maker. It's time to:

•         Regain respect and stop allowing people to take advantage of you.

•         Change people's perception of you from weak to assertive.

•         Increase your self-confidence and sense of pride.

No more excuses!

Time to stop being the excuse guy. Here are 10 steps to get you there.

1- Face the facts

As with most bad habits, the first step to dealing with excuse-making is to acknowledge that you have this problem. Don't procrastinate and hope it will resolve itself. Your friends and family have stopped accepting your explanations at face value -- so should you.

2- Get over yourself

Because you have never acknowledged your own responsibility in making excuses, maybe you have felt like people are out to get you. Well, it's time to leave the conspiracy theories to Oliver Stone. Try to stop being paranoid. There will always be people who disagree with you, criticize you unjustly or disrespect you. Don't waste a lot of time and energy creating explanations and excuses to prove them wrong. You'll just sound suspicious, distrustful and immature.

3- Clarify expectations

If you restrict yourself to tasks that you can actually accomplish, you won't be tempted to later account for your failings. Be upfront when asked to plan the office team-building activity. Ask what time commitment is required before you take it on. Don't feel forced to accept if you know that you'll end up laying the blame on others when you fall short.

4- Be honest

Making up excuses is as stressful as lying, because you have to remember exactly what you have told various people. Be honest and relieve yourself of the stress. Stop embellishing descriptions to cast your own self in a better light. Your defensive attitude makes your friends, family and co-workers uncomfortable.

5- Stop complaining

Constant hypercriticism of others doesn't make you look any better. Stop shirking responsibility and looking for the easy way out. If, in fact, the gym is overcrowded, expensive and has lousy parking, find an alternate one. Otherwise, admit you don't like working out, find another way to get fit and quit whining. Remind yourself each day of the negative implications of constantly finding excuses. Drive yourself to change.

6- Speak up, then shut up

Learn to say you're sorry without launching into a long-winded explanation. The reasons why your report was late don't matter. If you forgot your wedding anniversary, face the music and apologize without hiding behind fictitious reasons. Challenge yourself to eliminate extraneous excuses -- starting right now.

"Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn to exercise his will -- his personal responsibility in the realm of faith and morals."  - Albert Schweitzer

7- Accept criticism

Take ownership of your shortcomings and mistakes, but don't let habitual faultfinders undermine your confidence. You may be reinventing your attitude, but not everyone else is -- don't let others force you to revert to your old defensive ways. When you receive criticism, ask for specifics. In your annual performance review, discuss ways to improve for the future rather than trying to rewrite the past.

8- Develop a buddy system

Make a pact with a friend or colleague who has the same problem. Agree to point it out if you see him regressing to his old ways, and have him commit to doing the same.

9- Write yourself a contract

Jot down all your short- and long-term goals, along with set deadlines for reaching them. Date and sign the agreement, and have a witness (perhaps a good friend) sign it too. Seeing your goals in writing might have more of an impact on you, especially if you have a "buddy" checking up on you regularly.

10- Ask for collaboration

Invest your energy into finding solutions instead of creating justifications. If you're always late for your car pool, ask a fellow commuter for a wake-up call each morning. When your friends complain that you're always late for parties, laugh and ask them to invite you a half-hour earlier. If you need to, you can even seek help from a professional motivator or attend a seminar.

There's no excuse

Your health and well-being are your own responsibility. You have choices in life, and you're entitled to choose to find excuses for yourself, to blame other people and to sound paranoid. But you'll be happier and healthier if you opt for honesty, integrity and confidence.

How you react to external events is one of the things that will form people's impressions. It's never too late to improve your image. Show your willingness to change by eliminating this bad habit and becoming more dependable. Start creating solutions instead of excuses. It takes time and effort to change a habit, but it will be worth it.

25 Awesome Tips For A Beautiful Life

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. & while you walk, SMILE. It is the ultimate antidepressant.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. When you wake up in the morning, pray to ask God’s guidance for your purpose, today.

4. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

5. Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, broccoli, and almonds.

6. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

7. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.

9. Life is not fair, but it’s still good.

10. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Forgive them for everything!

11. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

12. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

13. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.

14. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

15. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

16. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: ‘In five years, would this matter?’

17. Help the needy. Be generous! Be a ‘Giver’ not a ‘Taker’

18. What other people think of you is none of your business.

19. Time heals everything.

20. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

21. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

22. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

23. Each night before you go to bed, pray to God and be thankful for what you’ll accomplish, today!

24. Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

25. Share this to everyone to help them lead a happier life.

Simple Signs That A Guy Likes You

The guy might act kind of strange and fidget around you, but nobody else does. It probably means he likes you, but does not know how to say it! I think the most obvious signs a guy likes you is when he says the dumbest things just to keep talking. Guys are doing these things when they like a girl, but they don’t want to admit that they do because they believe that they’ll be laugh at. Also, if a guy tries to hold your hand or starts talking dirty as a joke it’s totally obvious.

A.) One of the most obvious signs that a guy likes you is that he will just always stare at you even if they don't know you. They will just stare at you from a distance hoping that you will notice them. Most likely a guy will just stare at you a lot of the times and when you look at his way he just stops looking at you until you look away.

He will always ask only you for stuff they really don't need. Just so that they can get your attention or he just wants a small talk or even make you laugh!

I think that when a guy likes you, you will notice them that they’re always staring at you. They keep on looking at you until they notice you’re looking at their direction, so they know that somehow you’re interested. At least, I also think when a guy calls you at random times or calls you a few times in a day just to say “HI”, means that he is interested. It also makes you feel good and I think it’s the sweetest thing.

B.) When a guy likes to play around a lot and glance his eyes at you a lot even when you’re looking. He makes up nicknames and picks on you for fun because he knows it will be a funny joke and not serious to make you mad. When you’re angry he will feel sad for you and tell you he's sorry if he bothers you. They also will take up for you.

HE WILL RESPECT YOU AND WANT TO KEEP IT REAL. HE'LL ALSO TELL YOU THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF, BUT NEVER SAY IT IN A MORE DISRESPECTFUL MANNER.

Well, guys should stop being stereotypes since not everyone is going to make dirty jokes or try to hold your hand. I think as a girl the biggest thing you should look for in a guy is when he knows how to show some respect and that he is nice to you. Other than that, what else would you want from a guy in the first place?

C.) I think if a guy likes you he'll be touchy-feely or he would like to keep "accidentally" bumping into you just to touch you. They would like to play stupid when he's around you looking like a fool, but what he really wants is to impress you. Guys would also act hard to be mature when they’re around a girl they like or being over protective of you. You'll know that a guy likes you if he starts following you wherever you go and always making an eye contact.

He'll find any way possible to glance at you three times a day or stare at you a lot. If you ever catch him in the act he might look into your eyes so deep (if he's not shy) and other times he'll turn away until you stop looking at him, but if you try to look at the corner of your eyes you will find him taking another glance at you again. He looks at you a lot of times and then turns away quickly or when he looks down then that is a good sign. His pupils dilate when he talks to you and he seems to be hanging on to every word he says.

D.) You will know that a guy likes you when he loves to play with your hair and really annoys you that much. He'll use any sort of excuse just to touch you. Like if you're wearing a necklace, he'll move closer and try to grab it and say, "Look at the necklace." Or in any way he'll play with a tie on your shirt or a ring. He’ll do anything possible just to get close to you (but this could also mean in a different kind of way, so basically this is not always true because there are married men with kids who does the same thing and would randomly come up to you and like to touch your shoulder and etc. They may seem to be doing it a friendly way of saying “HI” and not more on “I want to be more than friends with you” kind of thing and you might misinterpret in a way that maybe it’s just the kind of person he is.

E.) A guy likes you if he would play fights with you. When he's talking to you he'll touch your arm or put his hand on your shoulder. He always makes eye contact with you even when you're not talking he'll just look at you and smile and he just can't stop smiling. He might also say stupid things to keep the conversation going and would try to tease you playfully. For instance, if you're going to the movies he'll choose a scary movie over a comedy or anything else because scary movies are an excuse to cuddle especially when girls are scared.

One sure fire that you can tell if a guy likes you or not is if you are in a bad mood he will try anything to make you smile. Also, he will try and get close to you even more even when you are crowds away. Or at least he will try and catch your eye.

F.) This is also interesting because if a guy likes you, he'll act nervous around you sometimes or always try to be around you. He might act slightly jealous when you're talking to someone or talking about another guy and then he'll want to know ALL about him, so he can try and work out if he's got a competition. One thing is for sure about the whole teasing and play fighting thing, and if he accidentally hurts you or annoys you then he'll be really sorry and use it as an excuse to get a hug from you.

Overall, he'll be nice to you and make you feel good at all times. I think one of the ways that guys do show us they like us is when they try to be mean to us. Like for some cases that they just want to make some arguments for no reason at all. They tend to act like little kids and be mean. Although, that is frustrating but there are some guys who just can’t admit the fact that they like the girl. They will also pretend to have a fight with you by pushing you or teasing you. If the guy makes you upset, he will try his best to comfort you and try to get a hug out of it (again, physical contact).

G.) I think a guy likes you if he comes up to you and even though he doesn't sit close to you every day. When you’re in a group his attention is almost always on you (For example: He says “HI” to you first then to everyone else or he doesn't even say anything at all. Or if he realizes that he's been focusing all his attention on you and then he would quickly say something to someone else just to cover it up).

If a guy really likes you he will gaze at you until you look his way, and then he'll either quickly turn away or smile at you (it depends on whether he's shy or not). Also, he'll always be looking for excuses to get closer to you or be where you are. It'll be pretty obvious. Trust me, when he does these things you'll know that he likes you.

We should always remember that NOT EVERY GUY IS THE SAME BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT WAYS OF SHOWING THEIR FEELINGS. One might fetch things or carry things for you, sit with you at lunch, or laugh at your jokes. My advice is DO NOT make a PRO-CON list out of it, if you know a guy likes you or not. I know, this would sound stereotypical, but NEVER EVER ASK A GUY OUT for a date!!! You could give him some sure fire gestures to let him know you like him, but DON’T ASK HIM OUT because that gives him way too much of an EGO BOOST. Letting him know what you feel and for him to take it from there is already enough. There is one thing that you should know that a worst thing any girl would do to a guy is to change the way he is. That goes the same way to guys when they try to change for some dumb girl.

H.) If a guy likes you, he will show interests with your interests. He will not compliment you to your face as much as he does to your friends. He will always want you to make the first move – you could be a bit bold or daring and put yourself out there. You could show him your true worth, by showing a bit of self confidence. In turn, he will become confident enough to ask you out.

Well, if you tell a guy you like him and he says he just likes you as a friend then that could mean two things: 1.) He could just be shy or surprised and not want to admit it because he's embarrassed. One way to tell is that he stills sometimes hangs around you. He may joke around and say positive and negative things about himself. That means he just wants to impress you or get your attention. 2.) He could NOT really like you. If you really think so then most likely you’ll know. He wouldn’t pay much attention to you. He may say “HI” a few times and he may also be friendly to you, but not being over friendly.

All guys are different and you never know what they are thinking. Guys are strange and sometimes they could be absurd. Just but follow your heart and you may find Mr. Right. If he likes you then he gives you special attention. When you talk, he just gazes into your eyes, takes special interest in you and the little things that matters to you. He would also give you the utmost respect and looks at you after everything he says to see how you react, but when you look at him, he looks away smiling. He'll try to show off his physical strength by lifting something or someone heavy and then looks at you to see if he impressed you. Also, he'll try to defend you when someone makes fun of you.

Listen to you your instinct and you'll know if he likes you. A guy does NOT like you if he is mean to you. I don't mean like making jokes about your height or something like that. Instead, he is being rude and disrespectful towards you. If you can think of three reasons not to do something, don't do it. It works the same with guys: Make a list of all the things you like and dislike about him. 

Selecting A Date

It is natural for a young unmarried man or woman to think about going out on a date or even just to have a partner for a night. How should be a single man or woman select a date? Some are being influenced by their appearance and they prefer to find someone with a pleasing personality. Others tend to look for material benefits for security and securing their needs or wants. Have you ever thought of these kinds of approach that may lead to a happy and romantic date? Remember that each and every day there are many love struck people is on the air. I am quite sure that some of us are just busy preparing for the sweetest yet memorable moment of our lives, so why don’t you try reading these tips that might be of help to you.

1.) Take a romantic candle date for two - remember girls are more expressive than boys are. They are much into emotions. Perhaps they might be flattered if you take your girl for a romantic date for two. Who knows it will add to your good points.

2.) Be sure to pick up your girl on time - always have the word of honor and never be late with your agreed time. It is better for you to come early than her. She’ll be impressed on how you make her feel that she’s important.

3.) Always pay the amount when dating - boys should pay the amount every time you go out with your date. If in case your money is not sufficient to go out, try to her send her letter, cards, or roses instead.

4.) If both parties agree to a group date well that’s good for you – it is much cheaper in subdividing the payments. As they say, the more the merrier and it would lots of fun.

5.) Have a good and worthwhile conversation - in dating do not just sit there. Make use of your public speaking skill to feel your presence as a companion and that is as important to you. Always have a sense of humor to avoid boredom.

6.) Always keep your own self neat and clean - this is the most important thing to do in having a date. One should always see to it that he or she is neat and clean to avoid discouragement. First impression last. Who knows you date will tell you secrets to others.

Perhaps, if you would follow my piece of advice, who might know you have a perfect day with your Romeo or Juliet.

Reason, Season, and Lifetime

By: Brian A. “Drew” Chalker

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a Godsend to you and they are. They are these for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled and their work is done. The prayer you spent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season and like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall – the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons, those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people (anyway), and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life.

10 Ways to Relieve Stress

Are you experiencing a lot of stress in your life? Try these 10 tips to relieve stress will make your life more relaxing.

If you experience stress often, it can cause major upsets in your life if you don't developing coping mechanisms to help relieve it. While some stress can be motivating, such as deadlines for projects, too much stress can make your life miserable as you wonder whether you'll be able to handle it. Although, some stress is unavoidable, such as that produced by other people or unexpected situations, developing ways to deal with it can help you feel less anxious and learn to make decisions in a calmer manner. Here are 10 ways you can relieve the stress in your life.

1. Identify stressors.

Many people feel totally stressed; some of the emotional symptoms of stress are anxiety, fear, mental pain, frustration, anger, and hopelessness. Focusing on the sources of stress can help you develop ways to better cope with it. Writing down a list of the things that cause you stress is a good first step to reducing stressors. The act of writing down a stressor forces you to acknowledge it as a problem; while some problems cannot be easily resolved, others can be easily removed by focusing on solutions. For instance, if your 6-year old child constantly makes you late several mornings a week because she can't decide what to wear, spending 30 minutes each Sunday afternoon with her selecting outfits for the coming week will help you to start off the morning with much less stress.

2. Set priorities.

Some people feel stressed because they have just too many things going on in their lives. Since, everyone has a limit of only 24 hours in a day sometimes you will have to say "no" to some of the demands on your time. Deciding what is most important to you and your family, and then making those things your priorities, will help you to decide which stressful things can be eliminated. For instance, if you want your family to eat healthy meals but find that cooking every night after work is becoming stressful, find some healthy takeout food or see if your spouse or older children want to share the cooking duties. Doing everything for yourself can often inhibit creativity in others who would be happy to share in new household or workplace duties. Deciding in advance what you can and cannot do in a time period allows you to delegate responsibilities to others and feel more in control of your time.

3. Learn to control reactions.

People differ in how they react to stress in their lives. Reactions are really the key to dealing with stress; if you are constantly overreacting to small stressors; your body is already taxed when more serious problems come along. Learning to deal with minor irritations at work and at home in a more relaxed manner can help you save your energy for major troubles. Visualize different problems that you face and think of various reactions you could have and what the results would be. For instance, if a co-worker is not doing his part of the project you're both working on to your satisfaction, visualize yourself screaming and telling him how incompetent he is, ignoring his incompetence, showing him an easier and more efficient way to accomplish his goal, and pretending his work is okay and then redoing it yourself at the last minute. As you visualize the different results, you will probably find that some solutions would lead to continued stress, or even make new problems. Learning to deal with other people in a more relaxed manner is essential to controlling stress in your life.

4. Learn to let go.

Some problems that cause endless stress are often not really that important. By identifying problems that cause you stress, you will be able to let go of the minor irritations that are bothering you. If you feel you always have to be in total control of your life, you are bound to experience stress as things happen that you can't control. If your life has become tied to a strict timetable try letting go of just 5 or 10 minutes of each day to do nothing. Step outside and look at the trees and flowers, feel the sun on your face, listen to the sounds around you, and just relax

5. Exercise.

Stress can cause serious physical problems in your body. Often people who don't show strong reactions internalize stress, which can lead to hypertension, indigestion, insomnia, headaches, or other ailments. Keeping your body in good physical shape is important even if you're not under stress, and in stressful situations it's even more important to be healthy. Exercising can be a great stress reliever; running on a treadmill, joining a yoga class, swimming laps, or cycling with friends are all good for your body and can take your mind off stress.

6. Watch your diet.

In stressful situations it's often easy to skip breakfast, grab whatever's most available for lunch and keep going with coffee and sugary snacks. This wrecks havoc on your body, as your blood sugar and energy go up and down all day. Plan your diet in advance to allow for small meals frequently, such as cheese, fruit, veggies, and whole grains, and try to avoid excessive caffeine, sugar, and alcohol. Eat breakfast, keep healthy snacks in your desk drawer at work, and eat frequently. When your blood sugar is low, your attention span suffers, so don't go all day without eating; that just adds to your stress and when you're starving it's easy to make unhealthy choices.

7. Laugh.

If you don't see anything funny about your life, you need a good laugh. Laughing is good for the body and the soul, and humor can help relieve stress. Watch funny movies, read comic strips, or look up some jokes on the internet. Some hospitals have now included "laugh rooms" where patients with serious illnesses can relieve some of the tension by watching funny films and laughing, which actually causes a chemical reaction to occur in the brain. Humor is a good way to relieve stress.

8. Pet your pet.

Dogs, cats, and other animals can be great stress relievers. Petting a purring cat, throwing a ball for your dog to retrieve, or going on a jaunt atop your favorite horse can make you feel calm and peaceful. Pets can be comforts to those who have stressful lives; coming home and finding a loyal pet waiting for you is reassuring and allows you to unwind in the company of a totally non-judgmental friend. If your building doesn't allow pets, walk a friend's dog or volunteer at an animal shelter, or just go watch the fish swim around at the pet store.

9. Get a hobby.

Many people who have stressful lives find hobbies relaxing. Having a hobby allows you to change focus and forget about problems that are causing stress in your life. Whether you like fishing, knitting, photography, or woodworking, a hobby can relieve stress and let you have something to which you can look forward If you're facing a lot of stress, taking up a hobby that you enjoy can help you unwind at the end of the day.

10. Sleep.

Not getting enough sleep can lead to stress, as you will feel groggy and unfocused the next day after tossing and turning all night. As insomnia can be a symptom of too much stress in your life, getting enough sleep is very important if you want to relieve it. Most people need at least 7 or 8 hours of sleep each night to function properly the next day; if you get more or less your performance can suffer. Deep sleep is especially important, and if you wake up frequently this can be impaired; if you can't seem to get to sleep on your own, your doctor may be able to help you with this problem.

Time Knows How Great Love Is

Written by: Maria Elouisa Enerlan

Type of story: I have no idea, but it’s an imaginary story

Date written started: July 19, 2013 (9:10 PM)

Date written finished: July 21, 2013 (10:18 PM)

Hi friends, it’s me Elle. Here I am again. It was 3 years ago when I wrote the same kind of short story. Well, not exactly the same, but almost the same. If you could still remember it was more of an imaginary story that I created on my mind.

Once upon a time in a far away land there was a small island called Paradise where all the feelings live. There was Happiness, who is full of glee and always experienced the joy in life. In the other corner of that island lived Sadness, who never knows how to smile and always filled with so much pain in agony. There was a big castle in the island which was owned by Knowledge, who is capable of knowing everything even to the smallest through the most complicated details about different kinds of things. Last but not the least, there is Love. She is the most beautiful thing ever existed in that island. Everyone adored her because of her precious charms and beauty that captivates all the eyes and heart of everyone living in that island. She lives in a small lovely home near the shore. Love knows nothing, but to love and be loved.

One day, everyone in the island where asked to join the gathering because there will be a big announcement to all the feelings in the island. Everyone thought it was something good, but to their surprised it was something that they least expect it to happen. It was being announced that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. All the feelings went home and prepared their boats to leave the island in no time, but to everyone’s surprised it was Love was the only one who decided to stay in the island. All of the feelings we’re confused and asked, “Love, why is it that you want to stay? You won’t be able to survive here all by yourself and the island is sinking. If you stayed here longer, eventually you’ll die in vain and no one can help you.” Hearing all those cries from the other feelings, all did Love reply was, “I decided to stay here because I want to preserve this little island we called Paradise until to the very last moment.”

Everyone did not understand what Love wants to happen, so they all decided to leave and go on their own journey. When the island was almost under the water, Love had finally decided that it was time for her to leave the sinking island. She starts looking for someone to ask for help.

Richness with his grand and luxurious ship passed by and Love asked, “Richness, can I come with you on your boat? I need someone to help me get out of this island. Richness answered, “As much as I want you to get in my boat, but I would like apologize for that won’t happen. There is too much silver and gold in my boat and there would be no room for you here.”

Love never gave up and kept on waiting until she saw Vanity who was riding in a beautiful vessel. Love decided to ask Vanity for help and cried out loud, “Vanity, would you please do the honor of helping me get out of this island?” Since, Vanity is conceited and has an excessive admiration especially to her own self - she never let Love get on her boat and said, “Love, I can’t help you. As you can see this boat is perfectly made just for me and look at you, you’re all wet and you will damage all the beautiful things I have in my boat. Farewell, Love.”

Suddenly, Love felt sadness inside of her. She was overwhelmed when she saw Sadness going through her direction. She waved her hand, to get Sadness’ attention because his mind is always set elsewhere and could not think of anything, but feeling sad. Love was screaming out her voice and said, “Sadness! Sadness! Please, let me go with you. I promise not to damage the things you have on your boat.” And because Sadness is suffering from too much pain and grieving in agony, he answered, “Love, I am so sorry, but I just needed to be alone right now. I can’t bear the thought of being around with you when I know that I am holding too much grudges in my own self.”

Love is starting to feel sad and alone while being stuck Paradise. She’s thinking that this could be end of her existence because anytime soon the island will disappear and it will be nowhere to be found. She wanted to swim, so that she could cross the open sea and find an island where she could feel safe. Unfortunately, none of those things will happen because Love does not know how to swim. While sitting there and waiting, Love saw another boat coming. It was Happiness. By then, she felt so happy and jumping with so much joy in her heart. Love was waving her hand and screaming out loud, “Happiness! Happiness! Over here, please take me with you.” But Happiness did not hear that Love was calling out to him because he was filled with so much joy.

Love felt devastated. Suddenly, she breaks down and cried for she is experiencing so much pain inside her heart. She decided to bid farewell to all the feelings for she will never be the same Love like she was before. Love decided to drown herself together with the sinking island and swore that she will never exist. Before she was about to give up her life, she heard a voice saying, “Come Love, I will take you with me. You don’t deserve to experience all of these bad things in life for you are the most precious of all the feelings.” When she finally came back to her consciousness, Love found herself on a new island where she got there safe and sound. Love felt so blessed that an elder saved her life. She was filled with so much joy in her heart that she forgot to ask the elder’s name as the elder went on his way to his journey. It was then Love realized how much she owed the elder her life.

While walking alone in the island, Love found Knowledge and asked him, “Who was it that helped me and saved my life from drowning in that sinking island, Paradise?” Knowledge looked at Love and answered “Love, it was Time who saved your life and brought you into this new island.” To her surprised, she could not describe how she feels and had been wondering and filled with so much joy. Love said, “That’s really strange but deep inside it made me feel grateful, but why did Time help me when no one else would?” Knowledge looked at Love and smile answering her questions with a deep wisdom and sincerity, “Love it is important for you to know that only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is which not everyone of us would. I guess, this would also help you understand that you’re existence is very important, not only to yours alone, but to those who have you in their lives which made them feel important and knows how to value their worth.”

Signs of Sneezing

It’s just so funny when I was trying to go over to some of my stuff when I was in high school and found this one. I decided to post this on here and share it to everyone because I think it’s so cute especially to the girls. They would have to look at this list and see the meaning of their sneeze which I did the same thing when I was in my teenage years, haha! I am sure the little girls and the young ladies would really enjoy these signs of sneezing. As for the guys, they think it’s not cute at all, but they would try to glance at it whenever they see this list when they sneeze, haha!

1:00     -           1:30 AM          You are not sure about what you feel for him

1:30     -           2:00                 Your friendship develops to love

2:00     -           2:30                 He needs a friend not love

2:30     -           3:00                 He is afraid to show that he loves you

3:00     -           3:30                 He will call you anytime of the day

3:30     -           4:00                 There is someone who will never forget you

4:00     -           4:30                 Someone misses you a lot

4:30     -           5:00                 He is your soul mate

5:00     -           5:30                 You don’t deserve to be happy with him

5:30     -           6:00                 You will love him forever

6:00     -           6:30                 He is someone whom you can consider as your real friend

6:30     -           7:00                 You love a friend

7:00     -           7:30                 Bad fate or illness will come

7:30     -           8:00                 Someone is angry with you

8:00     -           8:30                 A good friend will come to you soon

8:30     -           9:00                 Someone is longing for you

9:00     -           9:30                 A good luck for the day

9:30     -           10:00               Your friend trusts you

10:00   -           10:30               He has a girlfriend already

10:30   -           11:00               He likes you

11:00   -           11:30               You will meet a wonderful person

11:30   -           12:00 NN         He really loves you

12:00   -           12:30               Do not open yourself to someone else

12:30   -           1:00                 He is thinking of you

1:00     -           1:30 PM           Your friend is faithful

1:30     -           2:00                 He is only playing with your emotions

2:00     -           2:30                 A disappointments will come

2:30     -           3:00                 You will see your crush

3:00     -           3:30                 He wants to be with you

3:30     -           4:00                 A trouble will come

4:00     -           4:30                 Fulfilment of your dream

4:30     -           5:00                 A day for a special date

5:00     -           5:30                 You can trust your friend

5:30     -           6:00                 An expected visitor will come

6:00     -           6:30                 You are going with him soon

6:30     -           7:00                 There is a certain cancellation

7:00     -           7:30                 Someone is thinking of you

7:30     -           8:00                 It is a lucky day

8:00     -           8:30                 Someone is loving you secretly

8:30     -           9:00                 He is making friends with you

9:00     -           9:30                 Something nice is going to happen

9:30     -           10:00               He came as luck for you

10:00   -           10:30               You will be having a special date

10:30   -           11:00               A very lonely person will come

11:00   -           11:30               Just forget about him

11:30   -           12:00 MID       He is dreaming of you

12:00   -           12:30               An unexpected visitor will come

12:30   -           1:00                 He talks to others about you

36 Christian Ways to Reduce Stress

“Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what might happen tomorrow and somehow it does not happen, you will then have to worry in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.”

1. Pray

2. Go to bed on time.

3. Get up on time, so you can start your day right and don’t need to be always on a hurry.

4. Say NO to projects that won’t fit into your time schedule, or else that will compromise your mental health.

5. Delegate certain tasks to people who are capable of doing it. Don’t try to pretend that you’re Mr or Miss Know-it-all.

6. Simplify or try to get rid of the clutters in your life.

7. Less is more (Although, one is often not enough, two are often too many).

8. Allow extra time to do things that are important and to get to places at an exact time.

9. Try to pace up yourself. Spread out some big changes and difficult projects over time and don’t pile up the hard things all together

10. Take one day at a time.

11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you to do and let go of the anxiety you feel inside. If you can’t do anything about the situation, forget it because certain things happen beyond your control.

12. Live within your budget. Don’t use credit card for ordinary purchases.

13. Have backups like an extra car keys in your wallet, an extra house keys buried in the garden, or an extra stamps and etc.

14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut) This single piece of advice can prevent a huge amount of getting yourself in trouble.

15. Do something the “Kid in You” everyday.

16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.

17. Get enough rest especially when you needed one.

18. Eat right and drink enough water.

19. Get organized, so everything has its own place.

20. Listen to a tape, CD, or music while driving that can help improve your quality of life.

21. Write down your thoughts and inspirations.

22. Every day, always find a time to be alone.

23. Having some problems? Talk to God right on the spot. Try to resolve small problems in the bud. Don’t wait until it’s time to go to bed to try and pray.

24. Make friends with people who have faith in God.

25. Keep a folder of your favorite scriptures on hand like in your cell phone, computer, or in inside your wallet.

26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good “Thank you, Jesus”.

27. Laugh whenever you can.

28. Laugh some more if it’s needed.

29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.

30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).

31. Always try to be kind to people who are not kind (they probably need it the most).

32. Sit on your ego.

33. Talk less but listen more.

34. Slow down and take things one step at a time.

35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe, so don’t take things in control.

36. Every night before you go to bed, thing of one thing you are most grateful of that you were never been grateful before.

GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND YOU

“If God is for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31)