Thougths Of You

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan

Maybe I've written this not for you but for myself
For the assurance you're like everybody else
I somehow loved but eventually forgotten
Still know them but it's the feeling I am missing.

Afraid to let you pass by without knowing how
The inspiration you give to me makes me soar high
More than joy itself when you look my way and smile
I am falling, hoping you'll look at me in the eye.

Reasons why I did choose to see you in such a way
You seem to be the person to brighten up my days
Maybe not yesterday but today you surely do
And I hope in this lifetime you'd let me be with you.

Kidding aside, I wish a dream of us together
Walking hand in hand along the beach of forever
Or plainly sitting there with my head on your shoulder
But in truth, I'm loving you in my own little ways.

Listening For Love

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan

Date: January 3, 2008

There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel. Fear of embarrassing the other person or ourselves. We hesitate to say the actual words "I LOVE YOU", so we try to communicate the idea in other words. We say "Take Care" or maybe "Don't drive too fast" or "Be good at all times." But really these are just other ways of saying "I Love You". Words such as "You are important to me", "I care what happens to you" and "I don't want you to get hurt" these phrases only mean one thing and it says "I Love You." We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say, and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don't say. And yet, because the feeling is so real and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. Oftentimes, the meaning can never be understood at all and the other person is left with the feeling of unloved and unwanted.

Therefore, I believe we have to listen for love especially in the words that people are saying or telling us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying these things are even more important. A joyous insult carries more affection and love within the sentiments which are expressed insincerely. An impulsive hug says, "I Love You" even though the words might be saying something very different. Any expression of a person's concern for another says "I Love You" could sometimes be the expression of being clumsy or sometimes even cruel. Sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love that is contains. We say "I LOVE YOU" in many ways - with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love by just keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out, even harshly. Sometimes we show our love by our impulsiveness.

Many times that we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express. The problem with listening for love is that we don't understand the language of love, which the other person is using. A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking his language. We have to force ourselves to listen. The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other. They hear the words, but they don't listen or tried to understand the actions that accompany the words or the expression on the face. People listen only for rejection or misunderstandings. They do not see the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry.

There are ten thousand people or maybe even more people who are talking without speaking, people who are hearing without listening, people who are writing songs that voices never shared. It is because no one dared disturb the sound of silence. It is a terrifying picture of our modern world, a world without communication, and without love. We have to listen for love especially in those around us. If we listen intently we will discover and realize that we are more loved, so all you need is to just listen. In this world we should know that not all people care as much as one person cared so much about us.

Know How Much Love Can Hurt You

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan
Date: January 12, 2008

Love is such a powerful word, so mysterious that anyone can bear within themselves. Along my life's journey searching for that someone who will appreciate and love me for whom I am. I guess it's time for me to stop searching. It's not because I'm giving up on love. It's the thought that along my life's journey I grew tired of searching.

As what they say, love is not always like a fairytale. Maybe it’s the thought that there are people who give so much to those who don't love them back. There are some who feel so loved and find out in the end that they were fooled. There are some who's into mutual love, but can't call their partner as their own because someone already holds the title. There are some who give so much love, but the other won't believe because they always consider your past. There are some who receive so much love, but can't seem to move on from their previous relationship. Others just want to play the game and choose their playmates. Now, as you read what I have written in here. Can you really tell if which story is yours?

I know there's always a reason why we have to move on and forget the feelings we've always wanted to stay forever because love has its on wings to set free and find the right place where it should be. Sometimes, I ask myself if why did we to fall for someone who's not really meant for us. Should we blame ourselves for falling for the wrong one? Or should we blame the one we fell for? Because they made us believe that they are the one. I guess it's just the way how life goes when you fall. People fall in love, not knowing WHY or HOW. It's so special, a feeling that doesn't require much answer because all you have to do is to LOVE no matter how stupid you become. Now, with all the heartaches I've experienced in my life, it made think of these questions that really made sense to me. "Would you love someone who completes you? Or would you love a person who loves you completely?"

Why Choose A Filipino Lady

FILIPINO CULTURE

Traditional Filipino Wedding

1. Men traditionally shoulder wedding expenses. Only highly educated Filipino ladies would offer to share the cost, especially if most of the guest are from her side of the family.

2. Filipino women are naturally romantic.

3. In the old days, courtship is expressed though "Harana" (a traditional way of courtship expressing their feelings and emotions through singing).

The traditional Filipino courtship "HARANA"

4. Husbands are providers while wives are meant to stay home to keep the family in order and look after the children.


5. Philippines practices "Patriarchal" from the society (where men are more dominating than women).

6. Philippines does not have "Absolute Divorce". Only "Relative Divorce" in a form of "Legal Separation (husband and wife are only separated from bed and board but marriage remains in full force).

7. Filipino women are domesticated and submissive by nature. They are more willing to sacrifice career than a family.

8. Filipinos are polite and generous.

9. Filipino families keep elderly (such as grandparents) instead of sending them to an institution.

10. Filipino families have regard for dignity, integrity, respect and honor.

11. Don't call your girlfriend's parents by their first name because it shows a lack of respect. Call them AUNTIE or UNCLE, or in Filipino "TITA and TITO".

"MANO PO" a Filipino way of showing respect to the elders

12. Romance is very important to ladies - send flowers, cards or little things "just because".

13. Filipino ladies equate domestic responsibility with being a good wife (or potentially a good wife). Acknowledge her for cooking, and for her hard work at home.

14. Serve your girlfriend in front of her parents - it will make them like you more.

15. In a date, men have to pay for dinners, shows, and other expenses. Only highly educated Filipino ladies will offer to go dutch or buy a token drink.

16. Appreciate the close family ties.

17. Understand the Filipino ladies are often very religious.

18. Show respect for the elderly.

19. Her BIRTHDAY and VALENTINE'S DAY (February 14) are very very important. If you remember your girlfriend's family's birthday that would be even better.

10 REASONS FOR DATING A FILIPINO

A foreign man dating a Filipina

1. Loving, romantic, caring2. Puts family first before money.
3. Religious
4. Believes in a one-man one-woman relationship.
5. Understanding and patient and supportive.
6. Flexible personality. Optimistic.
7. Excellent home keeper.
8. Educated.
9. Offers very high respect to partners or provider in the family.
10. Adores partner that makes them complain less.