Who Is To Say Which One Of Us Loves The Most

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan

Date: July 27, 2007

YOU - "For all the things you do for me. When you felt his/her presence at times you needed a hand to hold you for comfort. A body to keep you warm. Quieting the wildest passion of my soul...."

I - "Hardly ever being around keeping you worried. Wondering when I am not always being there for your hunger and your laughter to hear. Is your love measured by the presence or the absence of the love one? Who is to say "I LOVE YOU?"

"Would you rather tell the person you care and love the most "I Love You" and think that you're lying? Or would you rather say "I Don't Love You" and know for sure that you're lying?"

Maybe because it pays to open up your HEART sometimes and basically you don't even know what will happen. But all you know with what you felt was REAL. We should all know that there's always pain and disappointments when falling in love, but make sure to continue sharing your love because the more you love, the more you'll get to know yourself. Every person you love becomes your REFLECTION. It's so funny how we always have these standards for prospective boyfriends and girlfriends, but we find out in the end that the one we eventually love are the exception to these standards.

We should know the reason in most relationship fall not because of the absence of love. Love is always present, it's just that the one loves too much and the other loves too little. Never expect love to be always at its best because if you do you'll never appreciate its existence. Remember that there will always be one true love for you to have and hold. It may not be the one you expect, but it’s the one you deserve. It could be someone who patiently and willingly waits just to be with you. The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them with their own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

Today is not another day, but another chance. If you have something to say, SAY it now. If you have something to do, DO it now. If you have something to give, GIVE it now. Tomorrow may be too late. Never be afraid to fall in love. It may hurt a lot and it may give you pain. If you don't follow your HEART, in the end, you will cry even more for not giving Love a chance. Never be afraid of saying "I LOVE YOU" to the one we love and care the most, for there might come a time that he/she find the comfort of hearing it from somebody else...

We should always know that the only way for us to love is not finding the perfect person, but by loving the imperfect person perfectly. Love is not wondering how long it will LAST, but how beautiful you can make it GROW. We need not to promise forever in love. For it is better to love one day at a time and string those days together. For it is better to love someone for a minute and remember it for a lifetime. Than to love someone for life and hate every minute of it. It's not the presence of someone that brings meaning to life, but it’s the way that someone touches your heart which gives life a BEAUTIFUL MEANING.

I hope what I have written would inspire those people who were In Love, in Hurt/Pain, Happy, Sad, in Despair/Sorrow, Hearts were Broken. What else? Well, to those who never gave up and never lose hope, and to those who still continue to share their Love.

NOTE: To all who get a chance to read this, please feel free to make a comment to this message, so that I'll be able to know your thoughts, insights, and opinions regarding with this one. Thank you!

It's All About Love

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan

It is a mystery we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and some love fails.You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of this experience. Just as life itself, is something more than the sum of bones and muscles and electrical pulses in the body. Love is something more than the sum of interest and affections and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes as its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways. Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life, the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold if it and celebrate in all in its inexpressible beauty.

This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment then move on. When this happens for young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given and a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what is was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them that make the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow. They try to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you had yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself, there is nothing wrong with you. love just didn’t choose to meet in the other persons heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him/her, feel honored that love came at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love will deal you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are very different. If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, and then love choose to leave, do not try to reclaim or assess blame. Let it go.

There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself will choose the moment. Remember you don’t choose love. LOVE CHOOSES YOU! All you do is accept it for all of it is a mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. give it to others who seem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. This is where so many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. In the first blush of new love they are filled to overflowing, but as their love cools they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love instead becomes someone who seeks love. They forgot that the secret of love is that it is a GIFT, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.