The Art Of Letting Go

By: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan
Date: October 17, 2007

It's over... you're gone... Why do we have to part while the love is still there? Why do we have to suffer? Why do we have to cry when someone bid goodbye? Why do beginnings have an end? Why do we have to meet someone only to lose them in the end? These are questions left unanswered. Words left unsaid. Letters left unread. Songs left unsung. Love left unexpressed. Promise left unfulfilled...

In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, the one who left feel no pain of parting. It is who stay behind who suffers, because they are left with memories of a love that was meant to be. In the beginning and at the end of a relationship we feel embarrassed to ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love goes. That's the drama, the bitter sweet of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing how and why. We must forget not because we want but we have to.

In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in a battalion. It seems that everywhere you go, everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye, and every breath you take always remind you of him. It's like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night. It’s funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person is missing. Just imagine there are four billion people on earth, yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other. I don't know if it's worth calling an art, but letting go entails a special skill sparkle with a considerable space and time. Care heals all wounds, but it takes a little push on our part. Acceptance plays a part. Not all wishes come true, not all stories end with, "And they live happily ever after."

Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer, if it would mean happiness for others. We have to cry temporarily to let go of the pain. Every beginning has its end as every dawn has its dusk. It is something we can't control and something that we have to live up. Beautiful things are built in foundation of pain. It is through pain that we become stronger people. It is through the times that we get hurt we learn how to make a lasting and a fruitful relationship. Time can heal even the deepest wound love brings. We know it hurts, but the pain will always be a part of loving. Love isn't eternal, it also fades away and dies, and when it does, we shouldn't die with it. Life has to go on even if we have to start alone. The mistakes we make should make us wiser and the pain love brings should make us stronger.

There is no certainty in this world. We should cherish what we have now for tomorrow or there may be no more. It's true that losing someone dear to us can be devastatingly painful. Let us cry when we have to and pray that our tears will wash away the pain we feel inside. Let every sleepless nights open our minds to reality and each passing day teach our hearts to love again. Never let go without trying and never give up without putting a fight. Follow your heart and go where your destiny leads you. A lot of us take for granted those we hold dear in our hearts because we assume they will just be there all the time. We fail to realize that one day in God's given time, they will leave us and it will be very hard to accept. If we know, deep in our hearts that we never took the chance to show them how they mean to us.

It's over... you're gone, but life has to go on. Goodbye doesn't always mean forever. There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken. Somewhere... somehow... someday...



Apart From An Over Used Word


Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan

Apart from an overused word, a totally unexplainable feeling that can’t be described in any way possible, but there are two things that we need to know. First, when you feel it while you are with them and it's the best feeling in the world, nothing surpasses it. Second, when you feel it without them it makes you feel bad and yearn for their presence, but still you feel happy. It’s a feeling somewhere inside of you and sometimes it would terribly confuse you. 

Although, the feeling of love could couldn’t be easily described because there are some things that shows certain symptoms. I guess, that feeling are things which includes following:

* A complete trust that your thoughts and feelings and other aspects (if not all aspects) of your life/self will be safe in the hands of another.
* You can't do anything without thinking about them.
* Longing to hold them (or be held by them) and be with them.
* Wanting to be by them every second of the day.
* Without them you would feel incomplete or empty inside.
* The desire to learn (everything about the one you love) and to teach (everything about yourself.)
* Knowing that they will always be there for you no matter what happens.
* An intense devotion to him/her.
* Knowing that nothing else matters more than them.
* When you accept the other person entirely and completely.
* Knowing if without them you couldn’t live.
* Love makes you look down on everyone else because they do not feel what you feel (presumably.)
* Everything seems better when they are in your life, they make the sun a bit brighter, the birds chirp a bit louder, even your heart beat a bit faster, and there is a spring in your step too.
* It makes you feel like you are stuck in a dream.
* They make you get butterflies in your stomach when they look at you and they make your pulse race when they touch you.
* It's not to be mistaken for lust.
* They can stop the time in its tracks when they kiss you.
* You would go to great extents for them.
* Sometimes you just want to break down in tears for no reason at all.
* Love is reciprocated.
* When they tell you they love you, it makes your heart weak and your chest tighten.
* When you think about how they love you (and you can't believe it) it almost brings a tear to your eye.
* It makes you blind.
* It makes you happier than you have ever been before.

Everyone feels love differently, in his or her own way. This is just what I feel. There are probably other things that I can't remember at the moment or things that other people would feel.
"I believe in this thing called love, just listen to the rhythm of the heart"

Who Is To Say Which One Of Us Loves The Most


Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan
Date: July 27, 2007

YOU - "For all the things you do for me. When you felt his/her presence at times you needed a hand to hold you for comfort. A body to keep you warm. Quieting the wildest passion of my soul...."
I - "Hardly ever being around keeping you worried. Wondering when I am not always being there for your hunger and your laughter to hear. Is your love measured by the presence or the absence of the love one? Who is to say "I LOVE YOU?"
"Would you rather tell the person you care and love the most "I Love You" and think that you're lying? Or would you rather say "I Don't Love You" and know for sure that you're lying?"
Maybe because it pays to open up your HEART sometimes and basically you don't even know what will happen. But all you know with what you felt was REAL. We should all know that there's always pain and disappointments when falling in love, but make sure to continue sharing your love because the more you love, the more you'll get to know yourself. Every person you love becomes your REFLECTION. It's so funny how we always have these standards for prospective boyfriends and girlfriends, but we find out in the end that the one we eventually love are the exception to these standards.

We should know the reason in most relationship fall not because of the absence of love. Love is always present, it's just that the one loves too much and the other loves too little. Never expect love to be always at its best because if you do you'll never appreciate its existence. Remember that there will always be one true love for you to have and hold. It may not be the one you expect, but it’s the one you deserve. It could be someone who patiently and willingly waits just to be with you. The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them with their own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
Today is not another day, but another chance. If you have something to say, SAY it now. If you have something to do, DO it now. If you have something to give, GIVE it now. Tomorrow may be too late. Never be afraid to fall in love. It may hurt a lot and it may give you pain. If you don't follow your HEART, in the end, you will cry even more for not giving Love a chance. Never be afraid of saying "I LOVE YOU" to the one we love and care the most, for there might come a time that he/she find the comfort of hearing it from somebody else...
We should always know that the only way for us to love is not finding the perfect person, but by loving the imperfect person perfectly. Love is not wondering how long it will LAST, but how beautiful you can make it GROW. We need not to promise forever in love. For it is better to love one day at a time and string those days together. For it is better to love someone for a minute and remember it for a lifetime. Than to love someone for life and hate every minute of it. It's not the presence of someone that brings meaning to life, but it’s the way that someone touches your heart which gives life a BEAUTIFUL MEANING.
I hope what I have written would inspire those people who were In Love, in Hurt/Pain, Happy, Sad, in Despair/Sorrow, Hearts were Broken. What else? Well, to those who never gave up and never lose hope, and to those who still continue to share their Love.

NOTE: To all who get a chance to read this, please feel free to make a comment to this message, so that I'll be able to know your thoughts, insights, and opinions regarding with this one. Thank you!

It's All About Love

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan

It is a mystery we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is mystery when it comes. It is a mystery why some love grows and some love fails.You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you will never do anymore than take the life out of this experience. Just as life itself, is something more than the sum of bones and muscles and electrical pulses in the body. Love is something more than the sum of interest and affections and commonalities that two people share. And just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes as its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways. Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life, the gift of love will come to you in full flower, and you will take hold if it and celebrate in all in its inexpressible beauty.

This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment then move on. When this happens for young people, they too often try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift freely given and a gift that just as freely moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for what is was, then moving on. They want answers where there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them that make the other person no longer love them, or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if some small things were different love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will grow. They try to give meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.

You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat what it brings you with kindness. If you had yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself, there is nothing wrong with you. love just didn’t choose to meet in the other persons heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him/her, feel honored that love came at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how love will deal you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are very different. If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, and then love choose to leave, do not try to reclaim or assess blame. Let it go.

There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know it in time, but time itself will choose the moment. Remember you don’t choose love. LOVE CHOOSES YOU! All you do is accept it for all of it is a mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. give it to others who seem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. This is where so many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. In the first blush of new love they are filled to overflowing, but as their love cools they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love instead becomes someone who seeks love. They forgot that the secret of love is that it is a GIFT, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Life With Love And Without Love

What is life with love and without love? 

We have our own ups and downs in life; career, studies, families, and etc. "Love life." People involved are expected to be in pain. I guess the very reason why people are scared to take the risk of loving is because they are afraid to take the risk of getting hurt. When you love someone, you are ready to lose a part of yourself - to sacrifice. In making sacrifices that you will experience to be hurt, if a sacrifice doesn't hurt, it is not sacrifice at all. It is called charity. Giving charity to someone is different from giving love. Pitying a person is different from caring. Pity lowers the self-esteem of the person who was being pitied. It makes him/her feel helpless - sometimes even worthless. When a person is loved, he/she feels special. He/she wouldn't feel like a rejected weed in the garden, but a special plant that would blossom in the nurture and love of his lover. Lovers should also be sensible. One must learn how to think, although, thinking may destroy the affairs of the heart, but this would be better than a beautiful life ruined. If you think he/she is worthy of all the love and sacrifices that you can give, then, for heaven's sake; Love him/her! If you think that you see it as the other way around, I guess it's time for you to ponder on things.

Yes, everyone is worthy and capable of loving and being in love - but are you a person worthy of love? Is that person worthy of your love? Maybe it would be better if he or she loved another and you loved another. There are no perfect relationships, but we could bring a happy and good relationship with someone who could love you better. Sometimes we lose people because we love them. 

True love isn't always the right love. Just remember - make a stand! Fight for what you believe in, but always be prepared to face the consequences of your actions.

A Piece Of Something

Written by: Maria Elouisa E. Enerlan
Date: January 28, 2006


While walking, I stopped for a while and thought of the things I don't have. Then I realize that the happiest moment of all people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

In the gateway of my heart I put a sign that says, "No Trespassing" but love came laughing and said, "I enter everywhere". Love knows no reason, love knows no lies - love defies all reason. Love has no eyes. But love is not blind - love sees but it doesn't mind. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and romance – and find that you still care for that person. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy and strength can also hurt you in the end. It starts with a smile, develops with a kiss, and ends with a tear.
When you love you must not expect something in return. If you do, you're not loving but investing. If you love, you must prepare to accept pain because if you accept happiness, you're not loving but using. Don't go for looks because it could be deceiving. Don't go for wealth because even that one would fade away. Go for someone who makes you smile because only a smile could make a day seem bright. The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly on them and not only to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves that we find in them. Never try to impress someone to make him fall in love with you because when you do, you'll have to keep that standard for the rest of your life.

A sad thing about life when you meet someone who means a lot to you, you'll find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you just have to let him go. Maybe GOD wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the right person, we know how to be grateful for the gift. Oftentimes, we don't see the reason why we don't always get what we want, but in the end of it all, we realize that what we wanted wasn't meant for us after all - everything happens for a reason. When you feel down because you didn't get what you wanted, just sit tight and you should be happy because God is thinking of something better for you. We all know that it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. It is always better to have found the courage to love even if you lose it in the end, rather than never finding love because you were to afraid to face its challenge. The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass this way once.

In love, no matter how hard you find it, you won't see it. No matter how hard you try, you won't get it. But when you're about to give up, it comes. Sometimes the love that we are looking for is right in front of us, too close for the eyes to see, so close to your eyes and let your heart see itself. There are things you love to hear, but you can never hear it from the person who says it. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want doesn't mean they don't love you at all. There are so many stars in the sky, only some radiant enough to be noticed. Among those you chose to ignore is the one who is willing to shine for you even if your glance remains elsewhere.

GOD never closes the door without opening the window. HE always gives us something better when He takes something away. Heartbreaks will last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them to go. Courage is not how to survive heartbreaks, but to learn from them. In a relationship, thank God when you're hurting or crying. You were given a chance to measure the importance of the relationship with the person and of yourself. We even have no right to ask when sorrow comes, "Why this thing happens to me?" unless we ask the same question at every moment of happiness that comes our way. When God puts a tear in your eye, it’s because He wants us to put a rainbow in our heart. There are things that we never to let go of, people we never want to leave behind, but we keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world but a beginning of the new life. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can't go on well in life when you can't let go of your past failures and heartaches. To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To let go is to fear less and love more.

Don't be afraid to break someone’s heart or leave your heart broken because that's how relationships are when you are young - they are stepping stones for the main one. Follow your heart. It might not always be right but despite the pain, you'll have the memories that will make you smile even once and every rare while. It is better to have the person you love right now, than have them later and lose them forever. Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reason. Each of us is given a pocketful of time to spend however we may but don't let each moment pass you by, for within the twinkling of an eye, that moment shall go. The feelings will die and it might be too late when you open your eyes. Don't be too busy planning the life you're going to have because you won’t be able to appreciate the one that you already have. Dream when you want to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be because you only have one life and one chance to do all that things you wanted in life. We are never given dreams without the power to make it come true.

A heart that truly loves never loses hope, but always believed in the promise of love. No matter how long the time and how far the distance would it be; never say goodbye when you can still take it - never say that you don't love the person when you can't let go. True love doesn't have a happy ending because true love doesn't have an ending.